告白 (Confessions)

接納、認同與愛，都是每個人所追求的。

From Anger to Intimacy

1. Do not rehearse & spew anger, but study it - know why you are angry & what you want.
2. Men & women are wired differently: most men do not like the feeling of being controlled, they hate to feel powerless; most women do not like the feeling of being disconnected & rejected in relationships.
3. When angry, have a time-out for you & your spouse to find a solution & move toward resolution.
4. Humility asks God how to change & do differently.
5. Security comes from knowing that your mate loves you in spite of your flaws & shortcomings.
6. Do not repay (an eye for an eye) & replay (repeat playing) anger, but resolve it (make every effort to live at peace).
7. God gives you the power to think those things you should think, rather than the things you are thinking when you are angry.
8. Forgiveness is me giving up the right to hurt you for hurting me.
9. "Only the brave know how to forgive. A coward never forgives. It's not in his nature." - Robert Muller
10. Majority of your communication is nonverbal, but through your face.
11. When you care enough to find out what happened and why, your empathy establishes a foundation for reconciliation.
12. Apology: A flippant or insincere apology can do more damage than good; the point of listening is to understand the other person; with just one or two sentences of calm rather than mean, degrading or belittling, you can reduce threat level & extinguish anger.
    
13. Your relationship doesn't need both of you to change in this moment - just one of you need to make a change.
14. We should live every minute of every day as if it were our last-filled with passion & purpose.
15. When a woman's hope for a better marriage has faded, her attractiveness to her husband diminishes and the life of the relationship gradually declines.
16. Love unconditionally - instead of harboring bitterness or unresolved anger, don't wait for your partner to do something that warrants your offer of forgiveness.

黃金歲月

http://programme.rthk.hk/rthk/tv/programme.php?name=tv/goldenage2010&d=2010-07-24&m=episode

健康長壽的秘訣：

• 少肉多菜
• 心境開朗
• 閒適生活
• 勤做運動
• 口味清淡
• 多動腦筋

最後的演講

it is a good book, reminds us how to treat our own life. 活於當下，擁抱夢想，樂觀奮鬥 !

some extracts:

• 「經驗是一個人沒得到想要的東西時的獎賞。」 -> experience is something gained when you cannot get what you want. Experience is usually the most valuable thing you need to pay.

• 「阻擋在前頭的磚牆不是無緣無故存在的，只是為了阻檔那些輕易放棄的人，同時讓你有機會證明你多麼想要一件東西。」-> 「世上無難事，只怕有心人」
• 「當你準備好了，機會來臨時便由你決定接不接受挑戰；你沒有足夠的實力，機會在眼前也是徒然錯過。」-> 「機會只會留給有準備的人。」
• 「我們改變不了上天發給我們的牌，只能決定怎麼打這手牌。」
• 「重點不在於你要怎麼實現自己的夢想，而是在於怎麼過你的人生。你如果以正確的方式度過人生，夢想會自己實現。」如果您有心，必然會積極而樂觀地應用在您的人生中，而夢想的實現只是副產品而已。
• 生活是屬於自己的，最重要是能以滿腔的熱情與激情走自己的路。

股票作手回憶錄 (Reminiscences of a stock operator)

1. identify the mega trend, not the micro fluctuations
   
2. trade only when the trend is confirmed, increase position only when you have profit
3. cut loss, let profit run

非常選擇，非常Match－擇偶十大原則 Finding the Love of Your Life：Ten Principles for Choosing the Right Marriage Partner

十大擇偶原則：
1：避開選擇錯誤對象的七大原因
a：交往不深，太快决定結婚
b：太年輕結婚
c：太急著結婚，未曾想清楚，未有把握
d：為討好某人而選擇一個對象
e：未有多方面的認識
f：帶有不切實際的期望，須知婚姻須要努力的培養和經營
g：如不願跟一個個性或行為上有嚴重問題的人相處一輩子，就不要跟他結婚
2：清楚知道理想對象的特質，牢記腦中
3：確定結婚對象跟自己有很多相似之處
4：確定結婚雙方都有健全的心理
5：確定真的愛戀對方，婚後毫無保留地表達熱情
6：確定雙方有深入、穩定的感情,激情會消失,友伴之情才能長久
7: 在言語上建立親密關係
8: 學會化解衝突,使愛的道路保持通
9: 信守誓約，確定不論任何情况都與配偶相守一生
10：如父母和至親好友都支持你所考慮的結婚對象，就與他們一同慶祝! 如果他們不支持，則須仔細了解他們的意見